Star of the Month
The Realization of Sonder
by
Malini Tarakad Seshu
I am making my way down the sidewalk to Alec’s house when I see her.
A woman looking lost, maybe three or four years older than me, with red-rimmed eyes fighting back tears, struggles with an abundance of books bundled in her arms while wearing a heavy-looking backpack. I immediately empathize with the woes of a fellow student, but the trembling is what gets me.
After a quick internal debate, I make a decision. Alec can wait.
I slowly approach her, and offer, “Hey, I’m Kyra. You look like you would appreciate a friend.”
She looks at me and I see the dam about to burst. Words spill out and I listen.
“I swear I wouldn’t ask this of anyone on a normal day, but I really need to go somewhere, and I don’t have my phone ‘cause I just came from uni and could you please call me a cab? I have the money and all, and I would do it myself usually but,” she dully chuckles, “my mind’s not really working properly at the moment.”
I’ve liked helping people my entire life and I’m not going to stop now.
Sorry, Al. “Sure, I have nowhere to be at the moment anyway,” I lightheartedly reply, trying to cheer her up without crossing the awkward stranger boundaries.
I pull out my phone and call an Uber for her, answer all the basic questions, and when they ask me for a name, I cover the receiver and ignoring the fact that she’d been crying, ask her kindly, “Your name?”
“Oh, uh, Angie,” She hurriedly replies, giving me a weak appreciative smile for not pushing.
After some more inquiries, the person on the other side tells me that the cab will arrive in about fifteen minutes. I voice my acknowledgement and end the call.
Angie profusely thanks me with a shaky smile, and I respond with a friendly gaze.
Help, I can do. Now, comes the part I’m bad at. Comfort.
“So, uh, would you wanna talk about it?”
She stares at me, wondering whether to talk.
“My-” her voice cracks, “My best friend tried to kill herself,”
and she whimpers, as if saying it made it real. She continues and stutters out, “She- she’s in the hospital and she’s gonna live, thank God, but why would she- how could she-” Angie breaks down in sobs and I’ve never felt such pain for someone else.
I’m only twenty, and I couldn’t imagine living without Alec and Raisha in my life, my supporters, confidants and partners in crime, and I hope to anyone up there than I never have to understand the pain Angie’s feeling right now.
I don’t know what to say, but I know that I need to help.
“Can I hug you?” I ask softly, and when she shakily nods, I embrace her and let her hold on to me and sob, because I know that’s what she needs.
“Hey, listen to me, listen to me. It’ll be okay. Your friend’s gonna be alright. You’ll help her get through this, I know you will, and you’ll be okay too.” I say with certainty, even though my confidence can’t predict the future. “You’re strong, and once this passes, both of you will be happy, I promise you.
You’re gonna make her understand how much you care, and you’ll help her, I have faith in you.”
I continue repeating reassurances while she breaks down in the presence of strangers, and I can’t seem to care.
***
It’s been ten minutes, and Angie seems relatively calm. I hope that she feels the same. I let go of her and she looks at me, with an earnest gaze, and whispers, “Thank you.”
I wave it off with an embarrassed look, because I’ve never known how to deal with gratitude or apologies of any kind, but she doesn’t buy it.
“No, really, kid. I don’t know why you’re even helping me, but you’ve helped me right now more than anyone has, since I got the hospital call in uni. I really needed that. Thank you.”
I don’t know how to reply to that, but she doesn’t expect me to, and I give her a genuine disarming smile.
We wait in silence for a few minutes and the cab arrives. Before she can enter, I blurt out, “Could I get your number?” I flush, and then ramble out, “I mean you don’t have to, but it would really make me feel better if I checked on you later, and you seem like a great person, and traumatic experiences really do bring people together, right?”
It’s official. I’m the most awkward person in this world.
She grins at me, dimly but still a grin, and says, “Sure, kid.”
After she gives me her number, she enters the cab and rolls down the window. “After all of this, I’m definitely gonna introduce my friend to you, she’ll like the kid who helped me while I was being stupid while she was in a hospital bed,” She pauses and sincerely says, “Thank you again, Kyra. Really.”
I brush it off again, and she lets me this time, knowing that I accepted the thanks in my own way. I wave at her as she leaves.
Well, that was a whirlwind of emotions, and I think I just made a new friend, or two.
I resume walking towards Alec’s house, knowing full well I was about to be interrogated about my delay.
I realize, more profoundly than I ever have before, that everyone has their life, as complex as mine, with ups and downs, friends and experiences. Every single individual has a life as vivid as mine.
I stumbled upon someone in need on a bad day of theirs, and maybe someone else will help me this way when it’s a bad day of mine.
It’s an interesting thought.
Now, all I can do is hope that Angie reaches without difficulty, hope that her friend will get better with help, physically as well as mentally. I hope that Angie will be alright.
I reach Alec’s door and ring the doorbell, prepared for the onslaught of questions. The door opens, and I’m smothered by an unexpected hug instead. “You idiot, I was worried about you! I call you fifteen times and you don’t answer, you said you were reaching thirty minutes ago.”
Warmth seeps into my body, and I am filled with the contentment of having a friend who cares. And if I hugged him tightly back, more than usual, cherishing his existence, no one would know.
I remind myself to do this to Raisha too later. I gently pull myself out of his hold, and leave my hand on his shoulder.
“Come on, I have some things to tell you.”
***
I am so grateful for my friends, who I see as family, and I hope that the stranger on the street doesn’t have to lose hers.